Why does the title of this blog brings so much controversy?? Thanks to the
Multiethnic Placement Act of 1994 wich prohibited State agencies and other entities that receive Federal funding and
were involved in foster care or adoption placements from delaying, denying, or
otherwise discriminating when making a foster care or adoption placement
decision on the basis of the parent or child's race, color, or national origin. Failure to comply with MEPA is violating title VI of the Civil Rights Act.
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What could be possibly wrong with another human being, loving and raising another human being? Is it wrong? If so why? I believe the advantages outweighs the disadvantages. What are your opinions?
I think that it is a great thing people need to know that it is not about race its about humanity
ReplyDeleteExactly! But some people will think that the adopted child will not have a significant idea of who they "really" are and to be conscious about their ancestors. Some parents of another race might not even know how to comb thick, course hair of a child that is African-American. So with that being said, I presume the family will do further research to better care for there new son or daugter.
DeleteSometimes people will have to go that extra step to find out but with the love they have in their heart for the child they will do research
ReplyDeleteI Agree.
ReplyDeleteWhile I do not object to transracial or any other type of adoption, there are certain issues where different ethic groups, as we all know do things differently: Church (Oh how we Praise!), Cooking(Ain't nothing like Soul Food!), Hair( nappy, curly,greased, braids and weaves, how often to cut a little boys' hair),Grooming (some of us need vaseline for those ashy parts, regular lotions is not going to help!)The main thing that has to be considered,is knowing how to LOVE that child or children. It's heart wrenching to see children of adoption be abused because of their color, some folks say that's not true, but give one of these so called parents a lie detector test and the truth will come out!
There are, for certain different needs for grooming the hair and skin of African-American children. As far as church or religion, I'm pretty sure that the religion will be as the same as thier adoptive parents. Cooking: As long as they are not starving thier child, food is food. (Maybe they will take a trip to Roscoe's Chicken and Waffles in the future) Hair and Hygiene: Im sure that tips and lessons will be needed.
DeleteThey key word here is LOVE. As long as that child is truly loved and cared for everything else will prevail. I'm for certain that they would explore information that is needed the better raise their new child.
Question. What should the response be when parents, whose race differs from the child, chooses not to focus on the child's cultural ties. They want to raise them they way that they want, and have no interest in meeting any cultural needs or giving history lessons. Will they be criticized for raising their child the way they want? The love isn't lacking, just the lack of effort to participate in cultural nurturing.
ReplyDeleteI don't know if they will be critized or not, but it is MISSION IMPOSSIBLE to please EVERYONE!! There are some new parents of a different race child that would love for them to know some things from their culture, and don't know where to start. There probablly some that wont. But IF they don't at all...who are we to judge them?? But I'm pretty sure that they would at some point.
DeleteBut I do know that it would benifit that child if he/she had a same race mentor.
DeleteI think critism will always be there but now in days we should our siblings about culture because we are soo together than before and we have become a better outcme on getting along.
ReplyDeleteI think no matter wht color u are u should be able to have any color child u want if ur lovin it thts wht really matters the most
ReplyDeleteI think no matter wht color u are u should be able to love wht ever baby u want to love color should never matter why should it matter? Stop makin color ur excuse for ever thing in this world
ReplyDeletePeople who want to adopt should be able to adopt. Race shouldn't be a factor. Only love should be a factor.
ReplyDeleteWell, my opinion is the parent should at least be half of the race of the race of the child that is being adoptive, so the child will not get too confused of their own true nationality.
ReplyDeleteA child of race A, who would otherwise remain institutionalized, is adopted and raised by parents of race B. The child is not properly exposed to the rich history of their true ancestors. Instead, they are introduced to the history and culture of the loving parents who adopted, fed, clothed, housed and loved them the best they knew how. Who cares? Certainly not the child being rescued... not yet anyway. We will all grow up with varying social issues which are very personal to each of us. Being left to learn about the heritage of your race on your own as an adult seems like a small price to pay for being adopted by a caring family as a child.
ReplyDeleteChildren have no bearings on what race is until that are taught...so with that I feel that any loving parent may adopt a child. Race shouldn't be a factor because we all come from the same source. So we should concentrate on the true matter, loving a child. It should be the same way God loves you when you are adopted into the body by salvation, God looks at the heart, not the color of skin!
ReplyDeleteAs an adopted child, I say: Race does matter!
ReplyDeleteMy adoptive parents are very good to me.
But the funny thing is, that my dad didn't want to adopt a kid from an foreign Asian country, at first. NOT because he's racist, not at all. But he acknowledged that I look different, and that I might suffer from some harassement in the future. Fortunately, this hasn't been the case so far. And now I'm so integrated my parents don't always realise that I look different. They KNOW it of course, because they see me every day. But I get annoyed sometimes , if they make overgeneralizations again about 'brown people' doing something wrong. And it hurts me, and then I say: 'Hey, you're talking about me also!". And then they answer: "Yeah, but that's different.." How is it different, I still look different, I still look brown. Parents must also realize that their child of color can't always have a say in the matter of skincolor and culture.
It may be a very trivial thing. But f.ex. I can't talk with my friends about the tanning craze in summer. I can still tan, but I don't want to. For a long time I had this inferiority complex, because everyone looked white and happy, and I was no 'white and happy'.
Plus, my parents also tried to raise as a 'real Belgian'. They never put enough effort in learning about my birthcountry. They are interested though, but they simply don't put enough effort in it. And it hurts me sometimes. I'm supposed to be 'a real Belgian', but I don't feel always like it.
But, of course, I have to keep in my mind that my country doesn't exist of cultures living with eachother. Every 'race' and culture lives next to eachother. We're not a melting pot as in the USA. (I live in Belgium)
There is nothing wrong with one ethnicity adopting someone from another ethnicity. For example, many children who are adopted in Africa are done by many non-African-Americans. I want to thank non-Blacks who have compassion helping african Children. These people are making a huge difference.
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